Sunday, August 29, 2010

Quotes from The Little Book of Aloha by Reneta Provenzano

I am cleaning out my desk, and I found a piece of paper with some quotes from The Little Book of Aloha, and I thought I would share.

When opportunity knocks, answer the door.

You are in control of your own life.  Be open to advice but trust in yourself to decide.  We each have our own rhythm.  Learn to dance to yours.

Do not read too much into things.  Some things are exactly as they appear.

Listen to what people say, but watch what they do.

Once an apology has been made, it becomes your responsibility to forgive.  If a grudge is held instead, it becomes your kaumaha (burden) and will continue to make you ill.

Anger is fear of letting go.

Understand your intentions before you act, as actions plant the seed for the future.

Sunday, August 22, 2010

Abundance Tip: Use Affirmations

Some people collect baseball cards. Others collect antiques. And yet others collect CocaCola memerobilia. I collect affirmations. I have a 3X5 file box full of affirmations for most any occasion.

I am sure you have heard the teaching about how our thoughts create our reality. We are co-creators with Source/God for our experiences in life.  The Bible tells us “In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth.” Before the creation took place, God had to think the thought of creation. “Then God said, Let there be light, and there was light.” Think the thought, speak the word, and creation begins.

Affirmations are the process we use to speak the word. We decide (think the thoughts) what we want, then we verbalize those thoughts in the form of a positive affirmation. The Universal Creative Mind does not know the difference between complaining and affirming. It is very important that we speak of what we want, not what we don’t want. Don Miguel Ruiz, author of one of my favorite books, The Four Agreements, calls this being impeccable in your word.

My favorite affirmation to use is “I am prosperous.” It covers a wide variety of situations. It is easy to remember and recall. It is the first thing out of my mouth when and if I notice that I am talking about things I do not want to create. In other words, if I find myself thinking or talking about a problem or situation that I do not want to create or continue, I make the shift in my consciousness by repeating the affirmation “I am prosperous” over and over and over.

I have found that repeating an affirmation at least 100 times in a day increases the power of that affirmation. It may sound like a lot, but really it goes very quickly. It does not have to be 100 times in a row. I do affirmations when I’m in the shower, at a stop light, during a TV commercial, etc. You will surprise yourself how many moments there are during the average day where you can repeat your affirmations.

I employ my KISS (Keep It Simple Sweetheart) philosophy when working with affirmations. I have found that the shorter the affirmation, the more apt I am to remember it and be able to rattle it off at those times that my ego is loud. There are many books and websites, teachers and coaches, which list and create affirmations. Many of my favorites come from people like Florence Scovel Shinn and Catherine Ponder. I have included some of the ones I use frequently below.

I am prosperous.

Golden opportunities are all around me.

I always have more than enough.

My prosperity serves the world.

Affirmations can be repeated silently as a mantra while you are meditating. They can be repeated out loud as suggested above (in the car, in the shower, during TV commercials). You can write out the affirmations if you like. You can record your voice saying the affirmations, and then play them back while you are sleeping.

One powerful way of working with affirmation is to do them in partnership with a friend or in a group. I have used this technique in a Mastermind Group and in a 4T Prosperity class. The group sits in a circle. The first person states their affirmation, such as “I am abundantly wealthy. I easily pay my bills and I have money to spare.” Starting with the person sitting on the right, everyone in the group then repeats back the affirmations, one at a time, using the person’s first name. For example, “Betsy, you are abundantly wealthy. You easily pay your bills and you have money to spare.” When each person has repeated the affirmations back, the person on the right then states his/her affirmation, and the process is repeated.

Affirmations are not a magic trick to achieve your desires.  Affirmations are a practical and useful tool to co-create all you need or desire.

Saturday, August 21, 2010

Abundance Tip : Nature Abhors A Vacuum

I've been collecting and experimenting with abundance and prosperity tips over the years.  I had at one point intended to write a book on the topic, but my guidance has been just to share the information.  Here is tip #1.

Declutter, declutter, declutter. Release, release, release. Donate, donate, donate. As a society, we accumulate so much stuff. When you are working on attracting things into your life, you must get rid of the stuff that you no longer use. If you haven’t worn it in 1 year, haven’t used it in a year, don’t plan to re-read it, gift it, donate it, recycle it, but get it out of your space. I promise you, you will not miss it.

Esther Hicks, channeling Abraham, shared a decluttering technique that I just love. I have improvised a bit because I hang on to things for sentimental reasons, even things I don’t necessarily want. The plan is to declutter and release one room in your house per day. Into each room, you bring 3 boxes. One box is for things to donate or sell at a garage sale. Another box is for things you are keeping for sentimental reasons. The third box is for those items that you have not used or enjoyed for greater than a year, but are not yet ready to release.

 Look at every item in the room. If it is something you use or enjoy frequently, it stays. Otherwise, it goes in one of the three boxes. Do this for each room. Things for donation or garage sale are self explanatory. However, it means either take the things to Salvation Army, Goodwill or other second hand store within two days, or plan your garage sale for no later than the next weekend. Do not store these items. The box of sentimental items can be marked and stored somewhere safe. The box of not yet ready to release items is inventoried (a list of the contents is made) closed, marked and dated. In one year, if you find you have not opened the box to use anything, it then becomes a donation/garage sale box. Release and let go of those items you no longer are enjoying. Allow someone else the pleasure of enjoying the items.

Sunday, August 15, 2010

What's Working Ya?

My friend, Dr Steven Farmer, has a phrase/question he likes to use during his workshop Q&A/check-in sessions.  It's "What's workin' ya?"  I always thought it was an information greeting, along the lines of "Where y'at?" or "Whazzup?" 

So here I am, reading Eat, Pray, Love by Liz Gilbert, and I come across a passage where Liz is talking to a yogi master/monk at an ashram in India about a ritual that just bugs her.  She hates it, and his reply (taking the position that it is still beneficial to her)  is ".....especially because you are having such an extreme reaction to it.  If something is rubbing so hard against you, you can be sure it's working on you."

Ahhh, what's workin' ya?

In my workshops, I have often shared a story on the trial of forgiveness in regards to relationships.  When I was much younger, I was involved in an abusive relationship - physically, mentally and emotionally.  The episodes were not frequent, but the consequences stayed with me for years.  We discontinued the relationshp after about 4-5 years, but it was 30 years before I was done being mad at "him".  It took 30 long years for me to ulitmately recognize that I was the one that needed to forgive myself for enabling the behavior that had continued in his family for generations, to forgive myself for sticking around and not taking action, and to forgive him for just doing what he learned growing up.  For thirty years, I worked on healing that part of me.  The first year after we split, I was mad every day.  As time went by, the anger dissapated somewhat, but when that emotional button got pushed by some experience or some memory, it would gnaw at me for days.

And then one day, I was just over it.  I couldn't tell you what happened, what enlightening experience occurred, if there was actually a specific ah-ha moment, or what.  I just know that one day I realized I was no longer mad.  I could think of "him" and what had occurred and be entirely neutral about the situation.  There was no emotion involved - not love, not hate, not joy, not fear - just nothing.  It was a bit like thinking of my 8th grade art teacher, whose name I don't remember.  I don't even remember if it was a man or a woman.  I just know I took the class, and learned how to sketch a fist. 

So what's my point?  What's working me? 

I was released - let go - fired - from a job I loved.  I am still not sure what happened.  It was a shock at the time, and I guess it still is.  Could I have done anything differently?  What or who can I blame for the experience?  This is what my mind works on....still.

Now it should be noted that the teaching that says "When one door closes, another is opens" is so true in this case.  I am very happy to be unemployed and without responsibilities.  It has given me the opportunity to be with my kids and grandkids, to write, to play, and to be free to do as I please each day.  The Universe has provided me with resources to cover expenses without having to hold down a "job".  I call myself "retired" (rather than unemployed) because given a choice, I would not go back to work - I would not change a thing.  (Well, maybe I'd see to it that the temperatures in Seattle never dropped below 40 degrees, but that seems like a big manifestation for little ol' me to undertake right now.)

Yet still my mind is caught up in the drama of all that happened.  Yes, everything worked out for the best.  Yes, I am happier now than I have ever been.  But why did it have to happen this way?  And why do I care?  THIS is what's workin' me!  Why do I care?

I've put to use most all of the healing techniques I've learned over the years.  I've cut cords.  I've done ceremony.  I've used crystals.  I've used flower essences and aromatherapy.  I've done soul retrieval.  I've asked for answers through my dreams and in my journalling.  You name it, I've probably tried it.

What I have learned through all of this is that there are always two or more sides to every story.  The truth can be found in each version.  I may be the star in "my drama" but I was not the star in my employer's story.  I was a supporting cast member.  I don't want "my story" to be a tragedy.  I want it to be about overcoming obstacles and personal triumph over those personal tradegies.  And this time, I don't want to take 30 years to reach that happily ever after conclusion.  I am ready for this particular chapter to be over.

So blah, blah, blah, yada yada yada, what's working me here?  Why the hell do I still fuss and fume about this particular story?  Why do I care so much?

Then I came upon this line in Eat, Pray, Love.  "Be a scientist of your own spiritual journey."

I am not sure what is really means, but it captured my attention.  Is it to be organized, practical and documentary in my spiritual life?  Are there specific steps we all have to take to enlightenment about things in life.  Is it that you need the left brain and the right brain to be working together on all challenges?

"Letting go and letting God" is fabulous when you are deep in prayer or meditation but not so easy when ego is yakking away about the unfairness of it all.

"Dear God, please do not let it take 30 years for me to work this out.   I'll be close to 90 by then.  I don't want to go through this drama for that long.  I need help now!"

My answer came immediately - "I'm here.  I'm always here.  Something is working you.  Quit just asking the question, Why do I care?  Start answering it.  Take that step and find out.  The answer is in your mind, just working to get out!"

Okay, okay, back to meditation and perhaps some traditional talk therapy......The issue is working me because it needs to be released to where ever it is that emotional crap goes once you've learned what you need to know.  The answers are within, buried down somewhere.  The methods used to dislodge them may be different for each of us, but getting the hurt and pain out, and releasing it is key for us all.

So what's workin' ya?  Are you ready to put on your working gloves and start digging for your answers?

Saturday, August 14, 2010


One of the steps in The Four Be's To Abundance is to write out daily affirmations.  By the 22nd day, sometimes coming up with an affirmation can be a challenge.  I've been asked to share some of my own affirmations that I use each month.

I am prosperous.

God is the Source of my supply.

I am rich beyond measure.

I am healthy, wealthy, and wise.

The more I have, the more I have to give.

Every day, in every way, things are getting better and better.

I always have more than enough.

I vibrate at a level of wealth and abundance.

I am open and receptive to all the gifts the universe has to offer me.

Prosperity is my divine birthright.

I trust the Universal Spirit of prosperity to provide richly for me now. 

I give thanks for a quick and substanial increase in my financial income now.

I now co-create all the abundance and wealth I need and desire.

My financial situation is beautifully blessed.

I am abundantly inspired in all the work that I do.

I am filled with creative ideas.

Money comes to me, easily and effortlessly, at the divine right time, in the divine right way.

I am just plain lucky.

Luck is my constant companion.

I am a money magnet.

The divine light within me is creating miracles here and now.

Money flows to me like an incoming tide.

I am slender and fit.

I am my perfect weight.


Those are some of my favorites.  Do you have any you'd like to share?