Saturday, December 26, 2009

Chakra and Aura Photo

Last week, Kim and I treated ourselves to an Aura and Chakra Photography session with Mary Versosky in Scottsdale, Arizona.  I just wanted to give her a shout out and a plug.  It was a very imformative and enlightening session, and I highly recommend it.  She does individual sessions, parties, corporate gigs and trade shows.  Check it out!

http://www.aurasandangels.com/1.html

Blessings of peace for 2010!

~Betsy~

Wednesday, December 9, 2009

New Writers, Teachers, Speakers - Inspire Me

I am a big fan of The Artists Way by Julia Cameron. I have found the exercise of “Morning Pages” to be so freeing and eye opening. Some days, I write just blah blah stuff – what happened the day before, what I need to do today, why does my neighbor in the RV in the spot next to us leave at 4am each day, just random thoughts. Today, I got to thinking and writing about spiritual teachers, speakers and writers.


Now first let me get this disclaimer out of the way. I believe we are all teachers and we are all students. We learn from each other, and from our reactions to each other. So while I am watching what you are doing, listening to what you are saying, and observing how you are responding, you are doing the same with me. When I find someone that says something that appeals to me, I want to hear or read more from that person.

That thought led to the observation that, in my humble opinion, many of our well known authors of the New Age/Psychic topics seems to be recycling the same old thing under a different cover. Now there is nothing with recycling. Different words, strung together in different ways, will be more meaningful to some people, and less meaningful to another. That is why there can be a million books on Angels or the Law of Attraction, and still a call for more.

Have you ever noticed that the first books of a famous author are often times the best of their work? I have a theory on this. I think when writers first begin to write, it is a combination of a little bit of passion, a little bit of channeled inspiration, and a little bit left brained common sense. If you look at some of the bigger names in the field of metaphysics, their beginning work was almost always published by a smaller publishing house, if not self published. It seems to me that in using the smaller publishing houses, or self publishing, one keeps more of him/herself in the work. Maybe that is what appeals to me. The writer’s way of putting words together, before big name publishers and their editors get involved. Not that I have anything against big publishing companies. I don’t. And I’m appreciative of their bringing the work of some wonderful authors to the public’s attention, in a way that only big name advertising, from bigger companies, can do.

I guess I just want to encourage those of you who feel the pull to write, to channel, to teach, and/or to speak, to do so from your hearts and souls. It must be a passion. When the ultimate goal is to help others through your words and experience, your work will flow. Put being famous, having a big name publishing contract, or earning millions on the back burner. If that is part of your path, it will happen soon enough. In the meantime, just do the work and inspire us. I’m always looking for new teachers!

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Wishcasting Wednesday - What Is Your Winter Wish?

It's Wishcasting Wednesday at http://www.jamieridlerstudios.com/.  I've been away for a few weeks as my husband and I have started our adventures as full time RVers.  Of course a new journey isn't without its flaws, or rather learning experiences uniquely disguised as challenges.  We are taking these in stride and working through them. 

Today's wishcasting prompt is "What Is Your Winter Wish?"

Oh what a great question for me!   For the past number of years, I had been working for a well known spiritual teacher.  I was unexpectedly laid off; unexpectedly to me anyway, and it threw me into a loop.  So much of this job was who I thought I was.  In the nine months since this happened, I've learned that I buried myself and now I'm anxious to bloom again as me.  The hard part for me is that this indeed is winter, a time of hibernation or dormancy.  I am anxious for my rebirth, but over and over I receive the message of patience.  It is still time just to rest and rejuvenate.  I am dealing with all of life's fertilizer, doing my best to grab the nutrients and let go of the rest.  I'm re-establishing my roots and my groundedness, something that I lost in the previous job.  I'm gathering my personal beliefs and finding ways to teach what is true to me, and not just repeat the rhetorical parlance of others. 

As you can probabaly intuit, I am still working through some hurt and disilluisionment over the way I perceive I was treated.  I'm sure the others involved have their own versions of the situation.  My winter wish is to rediscover me, to cut the etheric cords of pain and fear, and allow this time of respite and quiescence to heal and rejuvenate me as I prepare for the next segment of this journey called life.

Monday, November 30, 2009

Affirmations - My Life Savers

Yesterday seemed like the perfect day for a pity party or at least a  mini breakdown - or rather battling the urge to cross over into the panic zone. My husband and I are currently travelling around the USA in a 5th wheel travel trailer. We've had some electrical problems in the rig which have 'forced' us to stay with Kim's relatives. Staying here is not a challenge or a problem at all, at least for us. We all get along and there is plenty of room. However, it is frustrating that we can't be in our own place, but it is just not safe. In my frustration yesterday, I drank more coffee than I usually would, especially late in the day. I ate foods that don't sit well with me. The result was that I was awake most of the night, fighting the urge to jump into fear. We all have those times. The ones where every conceivable thing that could go wrong enters your thought process. I worried about everyone I love and cherish dying. I worried about our trailer catching fire, or exploding. I worried about traffic accidents. I worried about my aging uncle. I worried about my mother-in-law's upcoming surgery. I worried about having diarrhea, and not making it to the bathroom on time. I worried about rattlesnakes, scorpions and tarantulas getting into the bed with me. You name it, I managed to worry about it.


At some point, I had the thought or heard a voice saying "What the hell are you thinking about? Just stop it!" I knew I had to change my thinking immediately. For me, affirmations are the easiest way to do that. So I started with the simple ones that give me comfort. I am prosperous. Everything is in divine and perfect order. Out of this situation, only good can come. Then I moved on to the Prayer of Protection, the Lords Prayer, and the last thing I remember is ho'oponono - I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.

I woke up about 4am, with diarrhea, but I did make it to the bathroom on time. (TMI? Sorry.) I've switched from worrying about my loved ones, and concentrated on blessing them and surrounding them with love and light. As far as the trailer - well, out of this situation only good shall come. And so it is.

Sunday, November 15, 2009

It's In The Numbers

For the last 8 months, I've been guided to rest, relax and recuperate.  Admittedly, I'm probably a type A personality.  I like to stay busy, to be doing something, contributing in some manner.  To stay focused on not doing anything has been a challenge for me.  I've taken up a renewed, but casual, interest in numerology and the tarot.  Also, each day I pull one of my KISS (Keep It Simple Sweetheart) Oracle cards and write about it on that blog (http://www.kisscard.blogspot.com/).  Today's message was about doing more research.  My interpretation was that we are still in a time of evolutionary change, and it is not the time to be jumping into new projects.  It is still time to sit back, observe, ruminate, begin to work with intentional creating.  I believe the next cycle in our human awareness, beginning on or near 2012, will involve instant manifestation.  We need to practice and work with this energies now, before they kick in full throttle.

So back to the study and review, using the numerology program I have had for a few years, I printed up a numerology report for my personal years.  Here are my results - what a surprise!  Things are unfolding just as I was told they would in meditation.  Now, I just need to work on sitting back and continuing the resting part, the research and self study part, for a few more months!

" Your Personal Year for 2009 is 7

Betsy, you will experience a strong tendency to spend more time alone, to delve inside and find some answers and to reach a better understanding of yourself. This is not a year for social activities nor is it a year to try and reach goals on a material level. You will find that the necessities of daily life seem to be taken care of by themselves. There is no need to be overly concerned regarding your material needs. Without slacking on your daily duties and responsibilities, you can afford to give more attention to yourself. This is a year for inner growth. It is your spiritual and mental presence that requires attention.

Improve the quality of your life, read, contemplate and gain insight in yourself. You are important now. Rest and attend to your health. It is during this year that you strengthen the foundation of your life, after all your success in all matters rests upon the strength of your inner self. There will be many strange and unusual events inspiring you to take a closer look at life and an opportunity is there to experience the joy and beauty of life without any artificial or exterior involvement but purely the growing awareness of yourself. Too much concern and desire for material rewards, Betsy, will turn this period of your life into a very bad experience indeed, while a "let go and let God " attitude will make this such a fruitful and pleasant year that you may find yourself wondering what you did to deserve this.

Your Personal Year for 2010 is 8

After last year's constant involvement with yourself and very possible occasional doubts about the state of your business or career you will find this year to be a relief, Betsy. Things finally work out. Long postponed checks and promotions come through. You see the light at the end of your financial tunnel and an inner strength and confidence is breaking through. This is your year of harvest and, depending on the effort you put out in the past seven years, your reward will be equally large. There is a beauty in these cycles we can recognize and understand and in doing so we find ourselves "in the flow" and there is no more need to try and struggle upstream. So this year you will have an opportunity to involve yourself fully in work and material growth and bring home the rewards, at the same time a certain detachment is also necessary, for you and for the experience you have because it is not the reward that brings you happiness but your experience of life, which is why before the rewarding eight year you have had such opportunity for growth during the soul searching of a seven year. Give in to your ambitions, you will find yourself more clear and focused and able to pursue and reach your goals. Betsy, your power is visible and strong, mental creativity is high, vision and intuition will guide you, and at the same time you are more efficient and focused. There can be loss, serious loss, bankruptcy and failure, because always the rewards are directly proportionate to your effort and motivation, however you know the effort you put out and you know your motivations, so there must be no room for fear and doubt, only for success and winning and this year will undoubtedly turn out to be a very satisfying year.

Your Personal Year for 2011 is 9

This is your year to finish up all unfinished business, Betsy, to clean house and make room for new things. On a material level this is a good time to get rid of unnecessary weight, to give away or sell what you do not need anymore and to pay off old debts. On a spiritual level you will experience a different mode altogether. Your attention should turn to others and their needs, find ways to be of help and give time and energy to worthwhile causes. You must lighten your burden of questions and doubts and the best way to do so is by directing your attention to another direction, away from yourself and you will find yourself becoming lighter and more in touch with your self. This is a time of completion, problems can be solved and over with, strained relationships relax or disappear, the sources of stress in work or business can be better understood and dealt with. Be social and communicative, enjoy music and other arts.

Betsy, your creativity is higher than usual. There can be some difficulties this year due to your desire to face obstacles and overcome them, decisions have to be taken and courage and strength may be severely tested several times, this is not going to be an easy year all the time but you will feel relieved and on the brink of a positive breakthrough by the end of this year. This is the end of a nine year epicycle and will you will feel many times the excitement of a new and promising era when optimism is your friend but you will also experience the fear of letting go, however the more you let go the more room there is to be filled during the
next epicycle.

Your Personal Year for 2012 is 1

Be ready for major changes. Betsy, you will be inspired to start new projects or enterprises. You will feel a strong forward push toward new goals. This is a time for vision and planning. Share your dream with others; make plans, get the necessary support, but, above all, rely on yourself as the driving force. Be decisive!

You are starting a new nine year Epicycle. Everything you do now will affect your future. Do not hold back the inner force of creation. Be direct, daring, and bold.

You will have more confidence and determination this year, particularly in comparison with last year, which was a time of letting go. This year represents a time of birth. It's a time to take charge and to apply yourself to your dream. This is also a good time to make the personal changes you have long wanted to make: Start a diet and/or an exercise program, or begin a new course of study.

There may be some emotional turmoil, especially in the first two or three months. It takes a while to get the ball rolling. There are many changes you must make and much work to be done. Be open-minded, organized, and focused. Avoid distractions and procrastination. Betsy, you are at a crossroads. You will need courage and a clear head to stay on the right track.

This is a year of opportunities. The key months in your year ahead are March, in which you are able to lay the foundation to your plans; April, in which changes take place such as a change of residence or career; July and August mark a time in which you will see the fruits of your labors begin to take place; October represents a major turn in events, often fraught with emotional turmoil; the fall marks a coalescing of your plans into more concrete form. "

Would you like a report like this for your personal years 2009 - 2012?  Just email me (address is below).  I will need your first and last name (or last initial at least - mostly for filing purposes) and your month and date of birth.  The personal year number is calculated by adding your birth month and birth day to the year you are researching.  For me, my birthday is June 8th, so that is 6 + 8 + 2009 = 2023, reducing to 2 + 0 + 2 + 3 = 7.

With loving blessings,
~Betsy~

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Veteran's Day - There Is Peace In Today's Numbers

I'm interested in numbers.  I like to look at patterns and numerological significance in the numbers around me.  Today is 11-11-2009.  2009 reduces to 11, which would make today 11-11-11.  Ones are about leadership, intelligence, courage, inventiveness, creativity and individuality. 

If you reduce the 11s to single digits, you have 2-2-2.  Twos are about cooperation, diplomacy, efficiency, reliability, and peace.

If you reduce the entire date down, you get 11 + 11 + 11 = 33.  Now 33 is a number of illumination, intuition, and a master teacher.

And finally, if you reduce the 33 to a single digit, you get a 6.  Sixes are about the loving, caring, humanitarians and peacemakers.

For this Veteran's Day, I'd like to use the energies of these numbers to honor our servicemen and women, and our veterans, for their leadership, intelligence, and courage, combined with their efficiency, reliability, and cooperation in the efforts toward world peace, and to call on our Master Teachers, such as Jesus, Buddha, Babaji, Mother Mary and others to help us all raise our level of vibration to do own part in creating peace. 

"Let there be peace on earth, and let it begin with me."

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

It's Wishcasting Wednesday - What Do You Wish To Let Go

It's Wishcasting Wednesday at http://www.jamieridlerstudios.com/ and today's wish prompt encourages us to think about what we want to let go.

On a physical level, I wish to let go of the extra weight I have been packing around.  I'm not sure if it is there as some sort of additional protection against who knows what, or if it is because I take in more calories than I use during the day.  But whatever the reason, I wish to let go of the extra pounds in the most healthy way possible. 

On an emotional and spiritual level, I wish to let go of any anger, hurt, resentment, and/or feelings of lack and limitation.  It's interesting that this came up (coinykidink? I think not) because for the last two days, in my daily KISS Card drawings (http://www.kisscard.blogspot.com/), I have drawn Unconditional Forgiveness.  The card reminds me that forgiveness is all about reclaiming control over our reactions to any given situation.  So today, I wish to reclaim my power to choose light and love, and to let go of any perceived fear, misbelief, misperception, hurt, or anger.  Only love is real.

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Wishcasting Wednesday

Today's question from Jamie Ridler http://www.jamieridlerstudios.com/ is, "What do you wish to complete?"

The first thing that pops into my head is the book that I have started to write, but not finished.  It is an ebook on manifesting and I wish for myself that I would just buckle down and complete the project.  I was guided to write it.  It was all laid out for me.  I know longer care why I previously chose to procrastinate about writing it.  Instead, I choose to complete it!

Sunday, October 4, 2009

Why Friends Are Important

Nine Reasons Why Friends Are Important
By Dr Steve Stephens, Psychologist and Seminar Speaker

1.  They laugh with us
2.  They cry with us.
3.  They build memories with us.
4.  They stand beside us.
5.  They confront us.
6.  They believe the best in us.
7.  They help us grow.
8.  They keep us from temptation.
9.  They enrich our lives

*********************************************************************************


Yesterday, I got to spend the day with some long time friends.  Note the use of 'long time' as opposed to 'old' - We are in our 50s, but we think that we think like we did in our 20s.  Eight out of Dr Stephens' nine reasons why friends are important apply to the women I will be seeing today.  Number 8 - keep us from temptation?  I've known these ladies a long, long time.  We did not keep each other from temptation - in fact, sometimes we egged each other on.  And those are the experiences that we now laugh about, because we have learned from them.  So in honor of my wonderful friends, here are my nine reasons why my friends are important:

1.  They laugh with and at me.  Yes, I've done and said some pretty stupid things in my life.  My friends will be the first to remind me of those things.  And I love them for it.

2.  They cry with me and sometimes because of me.  It would be pretty hard to be friends for 30-40 years and not at some point done something or said something that hurt each other.  But we work through it.  And these friends have cried sad tears with me over boyfriends, when my parents died, when my dog died, and the happy tears when I got married, when my kids were born, when my kids got married.  And I love them for it.

3.  They build memories with me.  The good and the bad.  The funny and the not so funny.  The ones I wish they hadn't shared with my kids, and the ones I'm glad they did.  The ones we continue to build, today included.  And I love them for it.

4.  They stand beside me.  Sometimes next to me, holding me up.  Sometimes in front of me, shielding me.  Sometimes behind me, to have my back.  But mostly next to me so they can remind me how short I am.  And I love them for it.

5.  They confront me.  They don't take my shit, and they don't let me wallow in my stuff.  And I love them for it.

6. They see the best in me.  And remind me of it when Ego gets in the way, and all I can see is the crap.  And I love them for it.

7.  They help me grow. No,  not taller, but to be all the I can be.  And I love them for it.

8.  They encourage me to try new things and to take risks.  When the things work out, we celebrate.  If not, refer to reason #4.  And I love them for it.

9.  They enrich my life, in ways that I can't even put into words.  I wouldn't be me if it weren't for them.  And I love them for it.

Friday, October 2, 2009

The Power Of Silence

It makes room for LISTENING

It gives us freedom to OBSERVE

It allows time to THINK

It provides space in which to FEEL

It lets us broaden our AWARENESS

It opens us to the entry of PEACE

Author Unknown  -  From Lists To Live By (The Second Collection)

I've recently taken to driving without the radio on or a cd playing.  We've all heard of highway hypnosis - where you are driving a familiar route, and all of a sudden find yourself at your destination, but you don't remember the exit off the freeway, or the right turn you took by the store, much less signalling for the turn.  Somehow our brains are aware of the act of driving, but the mind is free to observe, think, feel, be aware and experience peace. 

Today, consider turning off the radio and just drive.  Look for the beauty right outside your window.  Pay attention to the thoughts that may pop into you head.  Experience the peace and joy that is there for you now.

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

It's Wishcasting Wednesday - Today's topic is Luxury

It's Wednesday, and I always enjoy going to read about the topic for today's Wishcasting at http://jamieridlerstudios.ca/

Usually, I read the topic and respond immediately.  Today, I decided to read all the other posts first to see what luxury meant to others.

Had you asked me this a year ago, I would have said what many others have said - the luxury of time.  Well, the universe gave me that luxury in March when I became unemployed.  On a leap of faith, my husband and I decided to 'retire' for as long as we financially can.  We've bought a 5th wheel RV and a truck and are planning to travel and see the US and Canada.  The luxury I wish for today would be to be able to do this for as long as we want.

When the time comes that we chose to have a regular home again, the luxuries I would want, and maybe even insist upon would be a deep soaking tub in a large master bathroom, and a lap pool.  I put this out there now because those two items have been on my manifestation list for years.  I know when the time is right, they will appear in my life, easily and effortlessly.  I just don't want the universe to forget!

Other luxuries I'd wish for:

The fast metabolism I had as a teenager, so I can eat whatever I want!

A good haircut, no matter where I am on my travels.

A mani/pedi every 1-2 weeks.

A monthly massage.

Whatever our idea of luxury, I know and affirm that we are all deserving of these things now!

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Wishcasting Wednesday

It's Wednesday, and I always enjoy going to read about the topic for today's Wishcasting at http://jamieridlerstudios.ca/

Today is about stretching.  What do I wish to stretch?  I can think of a bazillion things to stretch,  from my muscles to my budget to last night's left overs (so I don't have to cook tonight...). 

But most of all, I'd like to stretch my imagination to include the unlimited possibilities of abundance, prosperity, joy and happiness.  I'd like to stretch my imagination to easily write the next chapter or two in my mystery novel so that it stays fresh.

And honestly, if I could touch my toes without bending my knees - I'd love it!

Monday, September 7, 2009

IN DEFENSE OF CLUTTER

You may look at my desk, and see clutter. I look at my desk and see that everything I need to do is right there. I tend to be suspicious of anyone with a tidy, clutter free desk. Years ago, when I worked in a medical office, my desk looked like a disaster, but I could put my hands on anything and everything in a blink of an eye. I knew where everything was. There was an office rule – Don’t mess with the piles on Betsy’s desk. When I left that job, my replacement came in and always had a spotless desk. I couldn’t figure out how she remembered what needed doing, if it wasn’t in front of her face. Turns out she didn’t, and she is no longer in that job.

What we call clutter can be a good thing. It keeps things out visible, in front of our eyes, and demands our attention. It’s what we do with the clutter that counts. Some clutter needs to be released and discarded. Some clutter needs filing away for safe keeping. Some clutter just needs attention and to be dealt with. We get in trouble when we no longer see the clutter.

Today, I see and appreciate my clutter. I am listening to the message my clutter has to offer. Release and let go of that which I no longer need. File or place things of value in a place for safe keeping (or viewing). Work on the projects in front of me, on my desk, for it is a place of honor and respect. It’s my working altar!

~Betsy~

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

It's Wishcasting Wednesday

Twitter and Facebook are really amazing.  I met Charlie aka Shamsi331 on Twitter who posted a link to Jamie's (aka starshyne) website regarding Wishcasting Wednesday.  What a cool idea.  You post your wish on your blog and then link to others and offer support.  Same idea as a prayer circle.  I thought I would share, so here's the link:

http://jamieridlerstudios.ca/

This week's question/concern is what do you wish to begin?  My wish:  I wish to begin to create a simple routine that allows me time in the morning to meditate, journal, exercise and get ready for the day in a calm and peaceful manner.

Thank you Universe!

~Betsy~

Monday, August 31, 2009

Have You Seen My Passion?

I appear to have lost it. That’s how it feels anyway. Over the last few months, I’ve started to question things I thought were firmly planted beliefs. I’ve questioned where I wanted to live, and what I want to do. I even thought it was perhaps just a situational depression over circumstances of life. It didn’t feel how I imagined depression would feel. It was just blah – without direction or desire. Yet, I could snap out of it if I found a book, a topic or a movie that interested me. If I got a call from a friend or a family member, I suddenly had lots of things to talk about. It was not my ‘play time’ that was without direction. It was my ‘work’.


I feel a little lost without a schedule and a to-do list. I found I was creating a schedule around the TV. Good gracious, look what I was missing, before I lost my passion. There was West Wing in the morning on Bravo, there were CSI episodes all day long on Spike TV, and the NCIS in the evening on USA, back to back to back episodes, just as advertised. It wasn’t the best schedule I ever had, but it was a schedule, and I found comfort in it. And it wasn’t making my heart sing. Humming, maybe a little, but full out singing? Not so much.

I’ve always felt that if you didn’t like what you were doing for work, then it wasn’t the right job for you. You know you are in the right place when you wake up excited about your day. Not every day is going to be stellar, but it should be something you are excited to do most every day.

Right now, I seem to have lost my passion for work. I’m not even sure what work is anymore. I used to know. I used to have specific things to do. Maybe I am in between passions.

So how do you find your passion? It’s not like there is a passion aisle at your local super store. Passion? Oh, that’s on Aisle 4B. The Blue Light Special on the Passion Aisle.

Where and how did you find your passion? By trial and error? I certainly know what isn’t my passion. I have a long list that I won’t bore you with. Cleaning fish guts is probably at the top of it. Fame and fortune come in a close second. Okay, scratch that. I’ll take fortune, but have no desire for the fame part of it.

I’m a writer. That’s certainly part of my passion equation. So, armed with pad and pencil, I’m going on a passion hunt. I know my passion is out there somewhere. I know it begins within. I know it will make my heart sing.
~Betsy~

Addendum: Check out what Karen Bishop has to say in her lastest Wings article at www.emergingearthangels.com I guess I’m not alone.

Why Can't We Be Friends?

(Originally posted May 2, 2009)

I am in the middle of the third book in the Twilight series by Stephanie Meyer. The heroine of the story is Bella, a high school student, living in Forks, Washington. She is constantly being torn between her boyfriend Edward and her best friend Jacob. Edward is a vampire, and Jacob is a werewolf. Their kinds have been sworn enemies for generations upon generations. It’s a great series and I highly recommend it. If you liked the Harry Potter series, you will like this as well.


I lived on the Washington Coast for many years, and never once did I see a vampire or a werewolf, so that part is a bit difficult to relate to. However, like Bella, I remember being in a position in school (grade school through high school) where one of my friends would be mad at another friend, and I was expected to take sides. If I was friends with Sally, I couldn’t be friends with Mary. But what happens if I really like Mary? Having to choose one over the other wasn’t fair and it just sucked.

Fast forward 30 – 40 years. Oh my God, I’m in the same situation. It’s another Mary and another Sally – all grown up. Neither Mary nor Sally thinks I should like the other one because they are mad at each other. When do we intend to grow up? If you were my friend and I was yours, would you really care if I liked lima beans? Would I care if you liked cherry soda? Should it make a difference if liked rap music and I didn’t? Should it make a difference if I watched NCIS everynight, but you preferred to watch the news? I would hope our friendship was built on something more than specifically who or what we like or don’t like. Either you like me or you don’t like me. It shouldn’t matter that I enjoy a friendship with someone else, especially if I have no intention of asking both of you to join me for coffee or tea at the same time. What is the point in forcing a neutral friend to take sides? It’s not my fight! Consider me Switzerland! (Borrowed that line from the Twilight series – thanks to Stephenie Meyer.)

Pardon Me – I’m 54. Am I Still In High School?

Why do some people think they can just tell lies about you to your friends, and expect to get away with it? This happened to me this week. There was nothing to be gained by this person for telling this made up story, other than to possibly damage my reputation. But what is my reputation to anyone but me? I don’t get it.

But More Importantly….

Why the heck am I attracting these experiences? Is it an opportunity to turn the other cheek, or is it an opportunity to stand up for what I believe in? If it was a soul contract thing that I agreed to prior to incarnation – what the heck was I thinking, and where was my Angelic Council to talk me out of it!

~Betsy~

Sunday, August 30, 2009

When Role Models Let You Down

(Originally posted July 21, 2009)

What do you do? Wallow in disappointment? Recognize that they are human? Spiritual beings having human experiences have been known to screw up. If my role models screw up, is there any hope for me? It’s made me think – do I really want to put myself out there as a spiritual teacher? What if I screw up big time and end up disappointing someone who looks up to me? It’s one thing to pull yourself up from ______________ (fill in your own specific drama/challenge – alcoholism, drug addiction, divorce, cancer, chronic over achieving, chronic under achieving, obesity, pathological lying, or whatever your ‘thing’ may be) and then teach about how you did it. It’s quite another thing to be a teacher and then mess up big time by doing something in direct conflict with that which you are teaching. Or is it? Sure, we teach by the words we write and say, but we also teach through our actions. As my husband often says, “No one is totally useless. They can always serve as the bad example.” Or the example by which we learn. Parents always hope their children won’t make the same mistakes they did. I know my dad would not want to see me get addicted to prescription medication. I know my mom would not want me to hold a grudge for 50+ years. I have an acquaintance that I have always admired and looked up to. This acquaintance has made some poor decisions recently in regards to his/her personal life. I know this person would not want to have anyone make those same mistakes or suffer the consequences of those actions. Everyone makes mistakes. It doesn’t matter if it is one of your parents, the leader of your country, a teacher, a minister, a friend or an acquaintance. Hopefully, we all learn from our mistakes, and hopefully, as role models for others, not only do we learn, but we embrace the lesson and rise above any judgment (by self or by others) to go forward, in honesty, in integrity, in truth. We are going to make mistakes. Get over it. At some point, we are probably going to let someone down. Get over it. The only control we have is how we react to any given situation right now. We can’t change that we were disappointed by someone yesterday. We can’t be guaranteed that our favorite teacher or role model won’t do something foolish, illegal, or unethical tomorrow. We can only be in the moment and appreciate what is. Keep what’s good. Let go of the rest. Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water. Or as one of my (fictional) role models, Jed Bartlet from The West Wing, would say, “What’s next?”

~Betsy~

On A Diet? The First Thing You Will Lose Is Your Sense Of Humor!

(Originally posted July 18, 2009)

Okay, I stole that line from Loretta LaRoche’s new book, Lighten Up: The Authentic and Fun way to Lose Your Weight and Your Worries. It’s the truth though. Tell me I can’t eat something, or that something is not good for me, and I don’t find it funny at all. Well, except for liver. I could routinely give up liver for Lent (or any other reason/season). I liver was all there was to eat, I would probably learn to appreciate the concept of fasting. That or become a breatharian!


I don’t care what you call it, if you aren’t eating what you want, or you are making choices that don’t make you giddy, it ain’t fun. I no longer am fooling myself (or anyone else) by saying “Oh, I much prefer this sliced up apple to a chocolate chip cookie.” It isn’t true. I can appreciate that the apple is better for me. I can appreciate that the apple has fewer calories. But honestly, if my body processed both the apple and the cookie in the same fashion – I’d pick the cookie every time.

Like a large number of middle aged women and men, I have been on the lookout for the perfect foods for me. You know the ideal concept – things I can eat as much of as I want, which also happen to be the things I want to eat, and still be the weight I want to be (which isn’t what I currently weigh).

I’m still not sure what happened. In high school, I could eat whatever I wanted. My goal was to weigh 100 pounds by the time I graduated. I didn’t make that goal, by the way. I was a little over that goal when I got married. Then I had children. Maintaining a weight of more than 100 pounds suddenly got much easier. When you have younger kids, you are always busy. You are running here, running there, doing this, doing that. You barely have time to cook, much less eat. Sleep? What’s that? But still I was able to maintain my weight at a level where I didn’t feel overweight.

Years go by, and the kids got older, more self sufficient. I went back to work at a job behind a desk, and sat most of the day. Although I was busy, I didn’t get much exercise. Boom – 20 lbs gained. It was getting to the point where I wanted to do something. Something, as long as it did not involve exercise. Surely, I could just alter the food I was eating, and lose weight.

And I did. I feel like I tried most every diet or quick loss eating plan known to man. I’ve done food combining . I’ve done the vegetarian route. I’ve done Atkins. I’ve done NutriSystems. I’ve done point counting with Weight Watchers. I’ve done South Beach. I went back to a vegetarian diet again. I’ve done raw. I’ve done the cabbage soup thing, and the lemon juice, ginger and cayenne thing.

I prayed. I affirmed. I used dream boards. I did every manifestation technique I could come up with. Eventually, I began losing weight. Easily and effortlessly. Cool. I was happy. I maintained that weight loss for about 1-2 years. And then I was diagnosed with Graves Disease (hyperactive thyroid). One of the symptoms is increased metabolism, resulting in weight loss. (Note to self: When affirming easy weight loss, add the phrase “in a healthy manner.”)

Next stop – long term Prednisone to take down the swelling behind my eyes from Graves Eye Disease, and antithyroid medication to return thyroid function to normal (which means metabolism slowed down to ‘normal’). The 20 pounds I lost, came back and brought 20 more with them.

A few days ago, I saw a picture of myself from 5 years ago. Wow, I looked almost too thin. I had an email from a friend I had not seen in 6 or 7 years. She asked if I was still skinny? Who me? Skinny? I didn’t think I’d been skinny since I was in high school. So I did that thing that I’m guessing most middle age women would hate to do. I got naked and looked at myself in a full length mirror. Really looked. Then I shut my eyes tight. Okay breathe, I told myself. Look again, and find things you like. Hey, my calves looked pretty good. I could see some curves in my torso. Hey, there is a waist line there. My ear lobes looked good. My fingers and nails, my hands, my forearms, my upper arms – not so bad. The front of my thighs – check. Not ready to look at the back yet. My face was returning to ‘normal’ (a lot of people develop a roundness to the face and neck when they are on long term steroids – and I was one of them). I am starting to look like me again. Next step, look at things I don’t like. Check that thought – look at things I’d like to change. Yes, that back flab needs to go. I’d like my belly to be flatter. You probably don’t want to read my whole list, so I’ll save you getting to that place of too much information.

I began to look at things I wanted to change. Some, I could do relatively easily – like have my eyebrows shaped. The back fat and the belly, well, those are going to take some work. Am I worth it? Damn tootin’ I am.

Okay, how many of you are now wondering what the metaphysical reason is that I’m not releasing that weight. Oh trust me, I know I’ve looked at all of those aspects as well. Is the extra weight about protection? Is the extra weight about comfort? Is the extra weight about holding on to things too tightly? Is it about not letting go? Is it because we talk about ‘losing’ weight, and thus we have to go ‘find’ it?

I’ve talked with people that have meditated their weight to a level they wanted. I’ve talked with folks that have called on their angels for help and suddenly lost all desires for high calorie foods. I’ve talked with people that have told their bodies they didn’t need the extra protection, and the weight just disappeared over night. I’ve talked with people that have released weight just by clearing their chakras each night. Woo Hoo! And I’ve been disappointed in myself because I have been unable to do the same. What kind of spiritual teacher am I if I cannot put those metaphysical tools to work and achieve results?

You know what kind of person I am? I am someone who does not like to exercise. I don’t like to raise my heart rate to an uncomfortable level. I don’t like to get all sweaty. I don’t like doing aerobics. I don’t like sit ups or crunches. I don’t like bike riding. I don’t like jogging. I don’t even like shopping for special clothes to wear to work out in.

But you know what. I live in a physical body in a 3rd dimensional world. Science does play a role here. Decrease the amount of calories you take in, and increase the amount of calories you expend each day, and you will experience weight loss. Am I going to like the process? Probably not. Will I like the results, probably, okay definitely. Am I ready to commit? Maybe tomorrow………Just kidding. Yes, I’m ready to commit. Wish me luck.

BUT, if you find that miracle plan that allows me to eat carbs and dairy and chocolate and have a beer now and then – please let me know! I do believe in miracles, I do, I do, I do!

~Betsy~

The Seven Deadly Sins

(Originally posted July 5, 2009)

I have been enjoying Julia Cameron’s book, The Artists Way. Part of the ‘work’ you do while going through the 12 week process is to enjoy a weekly Artists Date. It is at least a 2 hour period where you are asked to do something that encourages or stimulates your inner artist. This week, I went to the library and looked through books depicting paintings that hang in some of the world’s most famous museums, such as the Louvre in Paris. I found myself looking up Hieronymus Bosch, primarily because this is the name of a character in a detective series I enjoy by Michael Connelly. I knew the character was named after a famous artist, but it was not anyone I had heard of before. Out of curiosity, I looked for art by Bosch, and came upon a work called The Seven Deadly Sins. Now my only experience with The Seven Deadly Sins was in another detective series by Lawrence Sanders. Who knew there was such a thing “in real life”? Not me, anyway. I’ve read the bible many times, and I didn’t remember anything about Seven Deadly Sins. There is a passage in Proverbs 6:16-19 (New International Version) that says:


There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers.

It was Pope Gregory the Great in the 6th Century that declared the seven deadly sins as follows: pride, envy, gluttony, lust, anger, greed, and sloth. I found the following definitions for these sins on a website www.changingminds.org

1. Pride is an excessive belief in one’s own abilities.

2. Envy is wanting what others have, be it status, abilities, or possessions.

3. Gluttony is the desire to eat or consume more than you require.

4. Lust is a powerful craving for such as sex, power and money.

5. Anger is the loss of rational self-control and the desire to harm others.

6. Greed is the desire for material wealth or gain.

7. Sloth is laziness and the avoidance of work.

Pope Gregory also lists a set of Seven Values as a counter-balance to the Seven Deadly Sins. These are faith, hope, charity, fortitude, justice, prudence and temperance. The definitions I found on the above website are:

1. Faith is belief in the right things (including the virtues).

2. Hope is taking a positive future view that good will prevail.

3. Charity is concern for, and active helping of, others.

4. Fortitude is never giving up.

5. Justice is being fair and equitable with others.

6. Prudence is care of and moderation with money.

7. Temperance is moderation of needed things and abstinence from things which are not needed

Isn’t the internet a wonderful thing? You can find so much stuff! Apparently there are Seven Gifts of the Holy Spirit as well: wisdom, understanding, counsel, fortitude, knowledge, piety and fear of the Lord. I looked for definitions of each of these gifts, and found this quote from Father Francis Fernandez, author of In Conversation With God, to be the most clear, for me anyway:

1. The gift wisdom enables us to comprehend the unfathomable wonder of God, and it urges us to seek him in preference to all other things, amid our ordinary work and obligations.

2. The gift of understanding shows us the riches of the Faith with greater clarity.

3. The gift of counsel points out the paths of holiness to us – God’s Will in our ordinary daily life– and encourages us to choose the option which most closely coincides with the glory of God, and the good of our fellow man.

4. The gift of fortitude uplifts us continually, helping us to overcome the difficulties which we inevitably meet on our journey to God.

5. The gift of knowledge enables us to judge created things in an upright manner, and to keep our heart fixed on God, and on things insofar as they lead us to Him.

6. The gift of piety inclines us to treat God with the intimacy with which a child treats his father.

7. The gift of fear induces us to flee the occasions of sin, resist temptation and avoid every evil which could sadden the Holy Spirit, and to fear above all the loss of the One whom we love, and who is the reason of being of our life.

Okay, that’s more in line with my thinking, but I kept looking. I even found a Fox News article from March 2008 stating that the Vatican had added 7 more deadly sins. The new deadly sins include polluting, genetic engineering, being obscenely rich, drug dealing, abortion, pedophilia and causing social injustice. Well, personally I don’t agree about being obscenely rich or abortion as a deadly sin, or any of them as a deadly sin for that matter, but it is a thought provoking list nonetheless.

My favorite result in my google search of the seven deadly sins was this one:

Gandhi’s Seven Deadly Sins

1.  Wealth without Work

2.  Pleasure without Conscience

3.  Science without Humanity

4.  Knowledge without Character

5.  Politics without Principle

6.  Commerce without Morality

7.  Worship without Sacrifice

I hope internet surfing isn’t a form of slothfulness. Honest, I wasn’t avoiding work, really I wasn’t. But if it is, it’s a good thing I am a firm believer in the divine forgiveness of sin and life everlasting.

~Betsy~

Out Of This Situation, Only Good Shall Come

(Originally posted June 21, 2009)

Really? Seriously? Okay, there is a part of me that knows without a doubt that this is true, but right now I’m stuck in the muck of Ego and trying to figure out how this phrase – this belief – can possibly bring comfort to someone who has lost a child to leukemia? How can this be true for someone who has lost his life savings in the last stock market dive? How can this be true for someone who was fired from a job she loved? How can this be true for someone who was just given a diagnosis of cancer? How can this be true for someone who just found out his/her partner was unfaithful?


It doesn’t flow as nicely, but I’d be more apt to find truth in the statement – This situation sucks. However something good (or dare I say something better) is coming my way….eventually.

Yeah, yeah, that’s all well and good, but what about now? How do we get past the grieving process? Just let it run its course? If you believe in the Law of Attraction, then does it not stand to reason that the more you grieve, the more you attract things to grieve about? That doesn’t seem fair. Isn’t bitching and venting part of the grieving process? Certainly our angels, our guides, our higher selves all know that we don’t want more to grieve about – that we are just processing.

How do you get out of the revolving door of “poor me”? I know for me, journaling has helped. I pour out my thoughts on paper, and then burn the paper in a simple ceremony. Talking/emailing with friends has helped. Of course, I have extraordinary friends who always seem to say something that brings me more insight into my feelings. They are helping me to understand what still needs to be looked at so I can let loose, let go and let God. I certainly don’t like my current emotional/mental state, but I’m the only one that can change it. With a little help from my friends, my angels, and my guides, I’m working through it. I am very blessed, and I know it.

I experienced a situation that sucked. I’m working through it. Picking myself up, dusting myself off, and starting over. Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better. Good is coming my way now. And truly, out of this situation called life – only good can come.

~Betsy~

Is Honesty Always The Best Policy?

(Originally posted June 15, 2009)

Sure. That’s a no brainer right? If the answer were no, could you then hypothesize that lying is the best policy. Maybe honesty is the better policy is more accurate. That said, is there such a thing as too much honesty? Too little honesty?


If you ask “Do these jeans make my butt look big?” – well, think about it. If you have to ask, then probably the answer is yes. Otherwise, you wouldn’t even have thought about it. You’d be thinking, “Dang these jeans look good on me!” But (pun intended), let’s say you did ask me that question. Do I respond with, “Yes, they do make your butt look big, but your butt is big – what do you expect?” or do I say, “Why not try on another pair to see if you can find something more flattering” or do I say, “The question really is, do you like the way those jeans fit and feel?” All three answers could be true. Is one more true than the other? Obviously the last two are more tactful than the first. What if you really liked those jeans AND they did make your butt look big? Would you really want to know? Or would it be okay for me to lie about it? Does it matter? It’s not that big of a deal. Or is it?

If it is okay to lie about that situation, is it okay to lie when someone asks you if you are upset or mad at them? Would it matter if you were just a little peeved, and knew you would get over it soon? Is it okay to fib and say nothing is wrong in lieu of making a mountain out of a molehill? Does there come a time when there are so many fibs that you can’t even see the molehills because you are smack dab at the base of the mountain? What happens then? Do you climb the mountain or haul ass back to base camp?

Is a fib to a spouse/partner different from a fib to a friend or to an employer? Does it ever come down too choosing the lesser of two evils. Yes, I’m annoyed with you, but no I don’t want to admit it, and I definitely don’t want to talk about it because it really is not such a big deal and I will get over it much faster if I don’t have to listen to you pick it apart and analyze it to death.

Honestly, I don’t have the answer here. Mostly this is just me trying to work out in my brain how I could have dealt with a situation better. If I had admitted to the little annoyances, could I have avoided a life changing situation? What if the annoyances were key in producing the life changing situation which I know was for my highest good?

Perhaps this would be a better journaling topic than a blog topic? However, I know if I am wondering about stuff like this, someone else is probably wondering about it. If that someone is you, I hope you’ll share your thoughts here.

~Betsy~

Sometimes, Ya Just Gotta Bitch About It

(Originally posted May 24, 2009)

Breaking all the rules of practical problem solving via metaphysics today, and just sharing a list of gripes.


Someone referred to me as a ‘loner’ today – Am not! I just prefer not to keep company with people that annoy me.

Recently someone referred to me as ‘intense’ – Again, am not! Focused, yes. Intense, hah-you want to see intense? I’ll show you intense …. Okay, I won’t because I don’t think that word really describes me.

Whether it is an employee, employer, friend or family member, if you are doing something or behaving in a way they object to, don’t you expect them to say something? Especially when you specifically ask if there is something wrong?

People who talk through a movie or performance at a theatre. Just shut up – I didn’t pay to come hear you – I came to hear the actors.

People who drive below the speed limit in anything by the right lane, thus impeding the flow of traffic.

People who smoke in non-smoking areas.

People who can’t admit they made a mistake.

Guilt by association.

People who cut in line or disregard the line. Did no one teach you about waiting for your turn?

Car alarms at 2am.

People who hit their pets or their kids.

Humidity – Yes, I know there is nothing I can do to fix it, but I don’t have to like it, do I?

I don’t know about you, but I feel better. I think I’ll go write a note of apology to someone about a mistake I made.

~Betsy~

Love and Marriage - 31 Years of Togetherness

(Originally posted May 20, 2009)

Today my husband and I are celebrating our 31st anniversary. Wow – 31 years…that’s a long time. Along the way, there has been laughter, tears, arguments, make up moments, stress, joy, kids, dogs, cats, moves, changes and challenges. And we survived it all. Occasionally, I’ve been asked – how do you think you managed to do it? Are there secrets to a long and happy marriage? Well, I don’t think there are secrets, per se, but there are actions and beliefs that contribute to the success of a marriage. Here are a few that apply to us:


We both came with a strong sense of family. Both sets of parents had long term marriages. Through thick and thin, good times and challenges, there has always been a commitment to stay together.

We share basic religious (spiritual) philosophies – that there is a power greater than ourselves.

We have shared interests, and individual interests.

We have mutual friends, and we have individual friends.

We enjoy a night out with our individual friends from time to time.

We talk about our goals and our dreams. We work together on the ones we share. We work individually on the others.

When we disagree, we discuss. Sometimes we discuss via email, so that the discussion does not turn into a fight or an argument.

We choose our battles, and then we negotiate. Rating our feelings on a scale of 1 to 10 helps us to determine how strongly we feel about any given thing.

We start each day and end each day with a kiss.

No matter what, I will be there for him, and he will be there for me.

From a book called Lists To Live By (Second Edition) come the following:

12 Actions For A Happy Marriage

Ask

Listen

Accept

Respect

Risk

Encourage

Adjust

Forgive

Give

Love

Laugh

Comfort

My wish for you all is to have as much love in your relationship as I have in mine!

~Betsy~

Handling Rejection

(Originally posted May 18, 2009)

Morning walks with my husband are great. It’s amazing what interesting topics come up. Even more amazing are the insights that come from random comments. We are currently living in Kailua-Kona, Hawaii. Each morning we walk about 2 miles. One day we walk south, toward Keauhou. The next day we walk north, toward the pier. We’ve been doing this same pattern since we arrived in January. Each day we notice something we hadn’t seen before…or rather hadn’t paid attention to before.


This morning, we had stopped to watch the waves crashing at Magic Sands beach. There would be 2 or 3 big crashing waves, and then nothing but the ebb and flow of water coming in and going out for a few cycles, and boom – back to the big waves. I’m sure there is a rhythm of sorts to this, but I am not aware of it just by casual observation.

Casual observation – an interesting term. It implies that you are watching without regard to outcome or having an emotional or mental attachment to what is going on. If you are in the water, you may be able to get away with casual observation when the waves aren’t crashing, but if you have ever been caught in one of those big waves as it hits the beach, you’ll understand that casual observation is not the tool to be using at that time. Those big crashing waves can pick you up, toss you about, and deposit you on the sand, spitting and choking. You survive, but it is not a fun experience.

It’s a bit of a metaphor for the experiences of life, right? Some days, it is gentle waves on the beach, but some experiences are the big shake ups that sometimes you just don’t see coming and leave you feeling flipped up and around, churned and covered in sand.

I had one of those big crashing waves hit me a few months ago. I felt picked up, tossed around and discarded up the beach. Since then, I’ve crawled my way to safer ground, and am now turning around to look at what happened and to see if there is a rhythm or pattern to those big waves.

Part of that safe ground for me is being able to talk things out, vent, dissect, peel the proverbial onion with my husband on our morning walks. Today, I started working with The Artists Way program by Julia Cameron. Part of the process is called ‘Morning Pages” – It’s akin to journaling, free and random thoughts put down on paper as they come to you. I was talking about this to my husband, and mentioned that I was surprised at the things that came up for me. I had written about being in the middle of one of those big waves and I had thought I was now sitting on the beach reflecting. Kim was making a random comment on something I said, and I had one of those “Ah ha!” moments. I don’t even remember what it was he said, but one word jumped out at me and shouted. There was no way I could ignore it. The word? REJECTION!

Oh my God, that’s exactly what I was feeling. I was feeling personally rejected by some friends. In hindsight, I can see the situation had been developing over the last six months as my ideas and opinions were being rejected. Okay – another piece of the puzzle has come to my awareness. Now what? How do you handle rejection?

Here are some ideas:

R-Review the situation. Would you have done anything differently?

E-Evaluate how you are responding to the situation, and work through it if necessary.

J-Just realize that something better is coming your way.

E-Excuse those that are not able to see the true you or the value to your service/product.

C-Check in for Divine Guidance.

T-Trust in yourself.

I-It’s not about you – remember that.

O-Offer up a prayer for releasing any hurt, and retaining any lesson, from this experience.

N-Never give up on your dreams and goals!

I’ll admit it. Rejection sucks. But I have to believe that all things happen for a reason. There was a reason I was rejected. There was a reason it hurt. There is a reason that I’m being called to look at it, and write about it now. The reason? Got my ass, as a high school buddy used to say. Whatever the reason is, and I may never know exactly, but I do know that how I deal with it, how I respond to it, is part of my own growth process. In the meantime, I’m not giving up. I just hit a dead-end with that particular association, so I’m trying a different pathway. And keeping an eye on the waves, just in case.

~Betsy~

A Rude Awakening

(IOriginally posted May 13, 2009)

My husband, Kim, and I decided to do a spur of the moment road trip last week. I had never driven over Saddle Road, here on the Big Island of Hawaii. Saddle Road is the highway that cuts between the two mountains here – Mauna Loa and Mauna Kea. We thought we would take the leisurely drive on the back road to Waimea, and then over Saddle Road into Hilo.


I’m the planner in the family. Although the road trip was relatively spur of the moment for me (I would typically start planning a trip months in advance), I found a few spots I wanted to visit. I wanted to stop at the Mauna Kea Visitors Center and inquire about going up to the observatories. Let’s just say that 9000 feet is pretty high up. We were there too early in the day for star gazing, and we were not dressed for hiking the area. It’s definitely something worth doing if you are spending time on the Big Island.

We headed on into Hilo, and had plans to stop at the University of Hawaii/Hilo’s Astronomy Center and the Hilo Zoo, which we did. They were so-so experiences, but I had a headache and I don’t think I was in an appreciative mood.

Then we moved on to check into a hotel for the evening. We were pretty tried from all the driving and touring. We went to dinner at Ken’s House of Pancakes and then just returned to our room to crash. Next morning, we got up and had breakfast at the hotel, Castle Hilo Hawaiian.

Why am I sharing this basic non-story? Well, I didn’t take any slides, so I don’t have those to share with you. Just kidding…. For all the things we did that Thursday and Friday morning? Do you know what I remember most? Every one we had interactions those days with was rude. Well, rude may be a bit of a stretch, but they were far from pleasant and certainly not helpful. So not what I was expecting. My experience is that the people here in Hawaii are full of the aloha spirit, usually very kind and helpful.

Friday morning, while driving back to the Kona side of the island, I was pondering out loud, “What the heck was that experience all about?” I reviewed our interactions with the hotel desk clerks, the waitress at Ken’s House of Pancakes, the waitress at our hotel’s restaurant, and so on. We were kind and pleasant with them, not difficult customers. I thought we deserved better treatment. I wasn’t sure what purpose this interaction served.

Saturday, the experiences were still drifting in and out of my consciousness. A – I didn’t know why I was still thinking about this, and B – I didn’t want to dwell on it. I picked up the remote control and began flipping channels. I saw Larry King’s show was coming up, with segments including James Van Praagh, JZ Knight, Debbie Ford and Michael Beckwith. Okay, maybe listening to these great spiritual teachers will help either give me some insight, or let me cut loose the experience. One of the comments that was made during the show related to how we interact with others, especially when that interaction is fear based, rather than love based. Loved based experiences have the happy, joyful, good feeling to them. Fear based experiences are those that make us uncomfortable for some reason. When we have those fear based experiences (or any experience for that matter), we cannot control how others treat us or respond to us, we can only control how we respond. In most instances, we never know the back story of those we interact with. Maybe the desk clerk was at the end of her shift, and was tired, and trying to get home to her family. Maybe the dinner waitress had a headache or new shoes that hurt her feet. Maybe the hostess at breakfast just didn’t see us, and that was why she left us standing there for 5 minutes when there were lots of tables available. Maybe our waitress was slow to take our order, bring our food, and bring our bill because someone else had called in sick and she was waiting on twice as many tables. Maybe they all hated their jobs and this was the best they were able to do at the time we were with them. I’m such a fan of The Four Agreements and here I was ‘breaking’ one of them. I was taking things personally. These people were not being rude or short with me because of anything I had done or said. It was their own stuff – their own reactions to things going on in their lives, not me, that they were reacting to.

So, the only thing I could control about the experience was how I reacted to it. Do you think my experience may have had a better outcome if I had prayed for these folks, rather than griped about them? I do. Paraphrased from something James Van Praagh said on the Larry King program – Regrets are those thoughts which teach us to look for purposeful good in our mistakes.

Next time, I hope I remember this, and do better.

Oh, and by the way, the road trip was not a total bust. On the way home, we drove down to Pahoa and to the east end of the island. We stopped and visited the Lava Tree State Park and then drove down to the Ahalanui Park to experience the spring-fed pool, heated by volcanic rock. The drive itself was delightful – through lush tropical foliage, and the parks were great. Definitely worth a return visit!

~Betsy~

Commercial Advertising vs Social Networking

(Originally posted May 13, 2009)

My friend, Swati, shared an article about Twitter with me. Have you gotten caught up in the social networking thing? I’m working on it, but sometimes it seems to be just too much. Maybe because I’m over 50, I’m not catching on to things as quickly as I did when I was younger? The gist of the article was about increasing the number of people you are following, and therefore you will most likely increase the number of people following you. Much of this is based on key words used in your bio, so that you can find others with similar interests, and others can find you. And then there is something with the # sign that I haven’t figured out, and something called #Follow Friday. I’m good with someone recommending a few people that they follow that I may be interested in. However, when someone with 4000 people they are following, recommends all 4000 of them on Follow Friday – that’s a lot of tweets to read through. From the writer’s standpoint, all this” I’ll follow you if you follow me” has to do with finding others that may be interested in what you had to offer in the way of product. Do you have a product for sale that someone would be interested in? How do you find your market? Using Twitter to find people of similar interests, especially those that would possibly use a product like you have, would be a great way of reaching out to let them. It’s not an additional out of pocket expense to participate in this type of network marketing. Personally, I don’t like to be bombarded with tweets advertising/promoting this or that. If you tweet something that is clever or thought provoking, I’m more apt to look at your link or read your bio, visit your website, etc. But I really can’t see following thousands of people. That’s just a whole lotta people. I did spend a little bit of time wondering if the writer, who was following over 4000 people, actually read any of the tweets he was getting, or if he was just collecting twitterers to whom he could market. When I realized I had just wasted 5 minutes thinking about that, something to which I’d never have an answer, and probably didn’t really care, I moved on to more important things.


I began thinking about commercials, specifically TV commercials. The amount of money that goes into creating a commercial, and then paying for airtime, is pretty staggering. I started looking around the house, and realized that most of the products I buy, I buy because I like those products. Very little of my consumer dollar is spent purchasing something because I liked a commercial. My current favorite commercial is for a product called Vitamin Water 10 (at least that’s what I think the name is). The setting is an office. Mother Nature steps out and addresses the employees. I don’t even recall exactly what it is she says – something about having to work harder. I was more focused on the various ‘employees’ who are animals. I especially crack up at the deer who is photocopying his butt, but I also like the bunny who is making excuses for his partner who will be out on maternity leave – again. Mother Nature quips about this being the 34th time this year, and are they even still together. For me, it is just a funny skit. It makes me laugh. Will I buy the product because of it? I doubt it. I started thinking about classic commercials over the years. I never bought Chiffon margarine, although I loved the “It’s not nice to fool Mother Nature” commercial. I never bought Parkay, even though I thought the “Butter/Parkay” commercial was clever. Vanity, however, does win me over. I will try a shampoo or conditioner or a brand of makeup if I like the look of the model in a commercial or print ad. It baffles me why my hair or face never looks like the models after using the product though. Unrealistic expectation on my part? Ya think?

A good blogger would probably be able to tie this all together with some clever lesson on advertising mediums. It’s a goal I can aspire to. Right now, it’s late and I’m tired. And honestly, I really just wanted to talk about the commercial with the deer photocopying his butt – it makes me laugh. And laughter is good. I guess this will just have to be one of my Blah-Blah Blogs.

~Betsy~

Fear vs Love - Thank You Emmett Fox

(Originally posted May 12, 2009)

Each morning, about 6am, my husband and I take a walk. During this time, we talk about how we see the day going, plans for the future, what we saw or read the day before that made us laugh or gave us pause to think. I hate to admit it, but my portion of the conversation recently has been focused on the challenges I’ve been facing over the past few months. Politely, I’d say I was processing. Honestly, I’d say I was bitching and whining. I do try to bring it around to ‘what is the lesson here’, but I spend 90% of the time rehashing the situation, and only 10% focusing on letting go. I’ve given up trying to understand what happened. Depending on who is telling the ‘story’, there are three or more versions of what happened. For the casual onlooker, the real truth is in there somewhere – a little bit of this, a little bit of that. Bottom line, however, is that it doesn’t really matter why it happened, or what transpired to bring about the current outcome, it is what it is. I can’t change the past, but I can focus on the future. That is the gist of part of our conversation each morning.


Every day I mentally set out thinking, okay – I’m over it. But then something happens that brings the issue right back to the forefront in my mind. I feel a bit like that line from Godfather III – “Just when I think I’m out, they pull me back in.” Dang those thoughts. I know they are creative. I know that by focusing on them, talking about them, processing them, that I’m just putting out the potential to repeat the experience or have the current one continue on. I’m not liking it one bit – the experience or the talking about it. I know better. So in this morning’s meditation time, I asked for help. And of course, help came my way.

I flipped open a book called, Around The Year With Emmett Fox . It opened to the reading for May 6th. The Bible reference is Matthew 5:43 – 47. The primary quote is “But I say unto you, love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you and persecute you…”

Okay – well, enemies is a bit strong. Hate – probably also not true. Curse and persecute – okay on a small scale it sometimes feels that way. Here is what Fox has to say:

“Love is God and is therefore absolutely all-powerful. Meeting hatred with Love is the perfect method of self-defense in all circumstances. It renders you absolutely invulnerable to any kind of attack.

“If you receive bad news, if you are unhappy in your work, or in your home, feel out mentally for the Presence of divine Spirit, all around you, affirm its actuality; and claim that God has dominion over all conditions, and you will soon be free.”

This is not new news to me. I’ve been working with this teaching for years. But something in the way Emmett Fox worded the lesson reached out and touched me today. I’ve found a new affirmative prayer. I’ll rephrase a bit and say “Meeting fear with love is the perfect method of self-defense in all circumstances. It renders you absolutely invulnerable to any kind of perceived attack.”

Thank you Father/Mother/Creator God and angels for helping me to see the divine truth in this situation. Help me to rise about the perceived problem, to let it go and to let God help me to move on. Help me to look only through the eyes of Love.

And so it is.

~Betsy~

Turning 55

(Originally posted May 9, 2009)

I woke up this morning, and realized in less than 30 days, I was turning 55. Wow – how did that happen? I’ve always found numerology to be intriguing, and I’ve studied it over the years. I found numbers even more interesting when I learned that angels deliver messages through repetitive numbers. (See the book, Healing With The Angels, by Doreen Virtue for more information on this phenomenon). In regards to angelic messages through repetitive numbers, 5 are about change, and sometimes big drastic change. I remember last year, upon turning 54 thinking, “Oh good thing the angels are with me this year to help me with any changes that are coming my way” (5s are about changes, 4s mean the angels are with you). Here I am approaching 55, and looking at changes upon changes.


As I was thinking about the whole angel messages through numbers thing, my thoughts wandered over to ‘traditional numerology’. In traditional numerology, you can look at a variety of different aspects of how numbers work in your life. You have numbers around you that do not change, such as your Life Path Number (based on your date of birth), your Destiny Number (based on your birth name)and your Hearts Desire/Soul Number (based on the vowels in your birth name) In terms of forecasting, you can look at your personal year , your personal month, your personal day. What I tend to forget is that the personal year begins on January 1st, regardless of what day your birthday falls on. Although my birthday is in June, my personal year changes on January 1st – along with everyone else.

I usually run a numerology report for myself in January just to see how the year may unfold, and to watch for anything that may jump out at me. Because we have free will within our lives, nothing is set in stone. Our thoughts and actions determine our reality, but the study of numerology will also help us to see patterns around us, and to take advantage of or prepare for things that have a potential for occurrence. I decided to go back and take a look at what the numbers were showing me about what was going on in my life now.

For me, this is a 7 personal year (month of birth, plus day of birth, plus 2009, then reduced to a single digit). A 7 year is a time for introspection and contemplation. It’s not a year to be social. It will be a year for inner growth and understanding. The necessities of life will take care of themselves, and I should not have to be concerned about material needs. There will be many strange and unusual events inspiring you to take a closer look at life.

At this point, I started chuckling. No kidding. So far this year, I have made a move to Hawaii, and determined this is not “home” for me, so I will be going back to Washington State in July. Definitely, unusual event #1. I released a job I had been doing for a number of years, and have no dependable monthly income. That’s unusual event #2 – good thing I should not have to worry about material needs this year because I’m trusting in the Universe to provide for me. Not a year to be social? No problem – I don’t have any friends in Hawaii to be social with, and I’m not much of a party person anyway. Give me a good book (thanks to those that recommended the Twilight series by Stephenie Meyer), and a notebook to journal in, and I’m a happy camper.

Next, I looked at my personal month for May. It is a 3 month (in a 7 year) and is great for playing and relaxing. Good thing. I don’t really have anything else to do. This is an odd position to find myself in as I am pretty much an all work/no play kind of gal – or I have been for quite awhile. I have worked myself into being out of balance, and I now have the opportunity to make up the difference by devoting time to play and relaxation. We have 2 more months on the lease on our condo, so my husband and I are doing the tourist thing here on the Big Island. This month we’ve visited the Paleaku Peace Gardens http://www.paleaku.com – well worth seeing if you visit the Kona side of the Big Island. Also on our list this month is the Seahorse Farm, the Observatory at Mauna Kea, Akaka Falls, Hilo, and a number of beaches.

Next month – when I turn 55 – I expect to experience some more changes. It will be a 4 month, in a 7 year, and one can expect that to be a busy month. Energy levels are high, and change will be desired. Reorganization will be high on the list. (Hmmm….very interesting as we will undoubtedly begin packing and preparing for our return to the mainland).

Honestly, I don’t like change. I’m not looking forward to turning 55, but considering the alternative, I’ll move forward and embrace it – not with a full on hug, mind you, but I will survive, and welcome my 8 year with open arms. You know why? An 8 year is about abundance and success! Counting the days until January 1, 2010!

Until then, I’m calling on my angels for help. Or as my friend Anna Taylor tweeted this morning – my ‘changels’ – Angels of Change! http://www.anna-taylor.co.uk/

(Blatant plug – If you would like your own personalized numerology report, complete with forecasts, please see my website, www.betsymbrown.com)

Do You Blog?

(Originally written May 7th, 2009)

It’s a laid back day here in Kona, and I haven’t much to say. So how about you share a link to your blog here, and I’ll read instead of write today.

~Betsy~

Addendum:  These were the blogs shared in the original post.

And Barb Cote shared this one:  http://www.marlenechapman.com/

From Idara: “Adventures on the Journey” – happy reading! http://www.onelightmessenger.blogspot.com/

From Swati: http://fleurviolettejewelry.blogspot.com/

It Sounds Good, But.....

(Originally written May 5, 2009)

Multi level Marketing – I know I have been in more downlines than I have had downlines of my own.


Exercise – There are those that say they can’t go without daily exercise. When they hit that runner’s high – they feel great! Me? Not so much. Instead, I opt for the exercise that I hate the least. And I’d give it up in a heartbeat, except then I’d really have to watch the number of calories I ate.

Diet Plans – Nice seque, eh? I’ve sampled most every fad diet plan (or live-it plan – if you remember Richard Simmons). It’s never quite what you think it will be long term. Bottom line is decreased calories and increased exercise will bring lasting results.

Movies based on books – Face it, the book is always better.

Sexy Shoes – They are never comfortable. Can you be sexy if you don’t feel comfortable?

Body Shapers – See Sexy Shoes.

What about you? Care to add to this list?

~Betsy~

The Three Bees - What Does It Mean?

(Originally written May 3, 2009)

The Creator and the Angels communicate with us in many different ways. They download pictures into our brains (clairvoyance), they whisper in our ears (clairaudience), they send us heightened sensations or gut feelings (clairsentience), they send us messages through numbers such as 444 (the angels are with you), among other things. When they really want to get out attention, they send repetitive messages or symbols. When the message or information comes through an animal experience – either a sighting, or in meditation – shamans refer to this as a totem animal (also called power animal). Ted Andrews and Steven Farmer have written books on what the different animal totems mean.


The reason I bring this up is that I have had, over the last few days, 3 instances where bees came up. Two of these instances were what I would term unusual. The third one, not so much, but it caught my attention just the same.

Here in Kona, they have the biggest bumblebees I have ever seen. These suckers are huge. I’ve become somewhat accustomed to them so that I no longer jump a foot off the ground and go running, but still they give you pause to stand still and watch. On a walk the other morning, I saw one of these huge bumblebees and it appeared to have a large white spot on top of its body, so that it looked 1/3 white and 2/3s black. I thought maybe a bird had pooped on it. It was quite unusual. After some research, I found it was a carpenter bee drone, and the white spot was part of its markings.

Second bee showed up the next day, and it hovered right in front of me. It wasn’t buzzing – it was hovering, just at about eye level. Again, never had see that happen before.

The third instance was a reference to bees in one of the Twilight Series books. (Okay, I admit it…I’m hooked on these books. Definitely recommend you give them a try. The author’s name is Stephenie Meyer). It wasn’t that the paragraph describing the bees was grossly unusual, but it caught my attention, possibly because of the two other encounters.

And I think that’s the point – it caught my attention. Of the kazillions of thoughts we think, and data our brain processes each day, why would I focus on the bees? I believe it is because there was a message in the symbolism around the bee. What thoughts came up for me when I considered bees. Off the top of my head, I thought about ‘busy as a bee’ and I thought about the stinger. I associated bees with flowers, so ‘stop to smell the roses’ was a consideration. Of course, I had to go look up what bees meant according to some shamans.

Here are some interesting things I found. My apologies to the authors of this material. I didn’t know I was going to be writing about it, and I only copy and pasted information for my own use. I didn’t make note of the source at the time.

“When a bee totem appears it is helpful to evaluate your activities. How much work are you getting done? Don’t ask yourself how busy you are. We can be very busy and yet accomplish little. The bee is very productive and doesn’t mess around. Bee teaches us to stay on task until the work gets done.”

“The stinger is also significant, a bee’s stinger represents sacrifice. The stinger is used as a defensive weapon, yet can result in death. When a bee totem appears you may need to ask yourself what needs to be sacrificed or let go of. If you allow yourself to let go of things that no longer serve you, the sweetness that may be in short supply will flow toward you more freely.”

“Bee shows us we can accomplish what seems impossible by having dedication and working hard. It asks us to pursue our dreams with incredible focus and fertilize our aspirations. Bee teaches us to cooperate with others who have similar goals so we can learn how to help each other.”

“If your energy is scattered the bumblebee can show you how to regain focus. If it stings you, it is saying, wake up and follow the rhythm of your own heartbeat. When a bumblebee buzzes you it is asking you to follow its lead. In so doing you will arrive at the destination most appropriate for your new life awakening.”

“The bee reminds us to extract the honey of life and to make our lives fertile (productive) while the sun shines. No matter how great the dream is, there is the promise of fulfillment if we pursue our dreams.”

“The Bee is the symbol of accomplishing the impossible. Aerodynamically, its body is too large for its wings and should not be able to fly. Although now we understand how it does fly (high rate of wing movement),the Bee remains a symbol of accomplishing anything you put your mind to.”

“It may be time to look for a new community or hive. Is your home and the people around you supporting you in the way that is truly beneficial for you and others?”

What is interesting to me is that I can apply most all of those meanings to my personal and professional life right now. I am thankful to Bee for its messages. Those messages bring me hope and guidance. I’m thankful to The Creator God and the angels for using this form of symbolic messaging system to get my attention.

~Betsy~

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